How to love your body (when all you want to do is change it)

I remember a time when I’d mastered getting out of the shower, brushing my teeth and dressing myself, all without looking in the mirror.


Because I didn’t want to be reminded about how ugly (I thought) my body looked.

That’s ACTUALLY how I used to think.

And the fact is, not only have so many other people felt this way (and still do), but the number of women and men who dislike part or all of their body continues to grow.

As humans, we can’t help but compare ourselves. It’s in our nature, and probably part of evolution, designed to make us strive for better.

And while striving to improve is a good thing, problems start to arise when comparison becomes a constant obsession.

Because without realising it, we’ve started to do it all the time – with our looks, our intelligence, our achievements.

The comparisons to perfect images in magazines and billboards has always been there, but in today’s age of social media, it’s even more intense.

The ability and temptation is there for us to compare ourselves against our peers and those we aspire to be like 24/7.

We’re hardly ever without our phones nowadays, constantly posting selfies but not before they’ve been through a rigorous round of edits and enhancements (don’t worry, we’re all guilty of a go-to filter).

But the sad reality is it’s now become a perfectly normal way of life.

Popularity and self-worth are judged by the number of Facebook “likes” or Instagram followers.

Positive comments make us feel good. Trolls can make us feel low and less worthy.

Our moods, our confidence and our sense of worth are no longer in our control, but are in the hands of people we sometimes don’t even know or will never meet.

Is this really the life you want to have, always feeling like you have to be perfect in your match against other “perfecters”?

Hell no?

Good, because there’s nothing wrong with you, and you don’t have to keep this game up any longer.

The first step in learning to love the skin you’re in is knowing that deep in the core of your soul you are worthy.

Full stop. No conditions. It’s as simple as that.

Every single human on this planet is worthy of kindness, love and connection.

We don’t have to earn it or impress to gain it.

We’re born worthy, and no matter what, we’re still complete and worthy each and every day.

The second step to remember is this: you always have a choice.

You can choose what you do with your amazing body – what food to put into it, whether to move it, nourish it and give it rest.

Because your body is a miracle!

It was grown out of a miracle and the fact it knows what to do each and every day is amazing in itself.

I believe that given the chance and the right environment, your body can heal itself and it can be as beautiful and healthy as you allow it to be.

But you have to be in partnership with it and not work against it.

You’re on the same team.

Your body is not letting you down. It’s doing the best it can do with the conditions you choose to give it.

If you treat your body with respect, love and kindness, I can assure you that you’ll see change, and you’ll start to love and appreciate what you have in front of you.

While I’ll never be the sort of person who looks in the mirror 100 times a day, I no longer go out of my way to avoid it.

Because I’ve grown to love my body for all it is.

I am complete as I am, and so are you.

  1. What do you most love about your body?
  2. What small action can you take each and every day to remind yourself that you’re worthy?
  3. What kind thing can you do for your body today?

Perhaps it’s making time for a walk, disconnecting from social media for the day, or spending time with people who make you laugh and feel good.

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